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Do you have a deep-seated fear that is keeping you from being the best pitcher or coach you can be?

Fear is the number 1 dream killer in the world.

What is hard to accept is that our fear comes from several different feelings and sources.

But.. The good news is you can overcome your fear.

Here are 3 things you can do today to overcome your fear.

1. Examine It.

Is the fear real or are you just trying to avoid doing hard things.  To be able to overcome your fear you have to identify the source of your fear.  Is it physical, emotional or mental?  Once you identify what it is and where it coming from you can start to figure what is causing it.  Is it real?

2.  Acknowledge It.

Once you have identified that your fear is real, not procrastination, you have to acknowledge it.  Now you can start to seek out solutions to how to overcome your fear.

If it is physical then what information or training do you need to overcome it?

If it emotional, then write it down on a piece of paper and start examining what causes you to have those feelings.  Is there a trigger that causes you to feel that way?  Our emotional connection to pitching is what drives our passion and commitment. What do you think it is?

If it is mental then we have to look at your mindset.  Your mindset controls your Motivation, Desire and Belief System.

Write on a piece of paper,

  • Why do you want to be a pitcher? (Motivation)
  • What do you want to accomplish as a pitcher? (Desire)
  • Do you have the Faith, Trust and Confidence in yourself to be a great pitcher? (Belief System)

Be honest with yourself. Do You Believe?

3. Master It.

Now that you have written down some of the causes or sources, you have to make a personal decision to overcome them.  Fear usually comes from the unknown or your lack of confidence in your preparation.  Decide right now that you are no longer going to give fear control over you.

Get up everyday and take specific intentional actions to work on the things that are causing the fear.  Once you know the source of the fear you can master it.  You will have to make yourself vulnerable and be totally honest with yourself.

You are not alone.

My first year in the Minor Leagues I was terrified.  I couldn’t convince myself that I was good enough to play at this level.  It took me years before I realized that I wasn’t competing against them, I was competing with myself.  It was then that I knew I had to overcome my fear or my Professional Baseball career was going to be very short.

My problem was mental.  It wasn’t until 3 years after I was done playing with the Phillies that I truly thought I was good enough, by then it was too late.

Don’t wait like I did.

Examine Your Fear, Acknowledge Your Fear and Then Master Your Fear.

I know you can do it.  I believe in you.

Do You Believe in You?

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2 Comments

  • Connie D. Singleton May 20, 2013 at 2:13 am

    Acknowledge that fear of being judged is a real and common fear. Like anything else the fear of being judged by others can’t be overcome until you understand and acknowledge that it exists, and that it really is YOUR fear.

    • Darrell Coulter May 20, 2013 at 6:21 am

      Connie
      No question that sports and especially pitching puts you front and center for as being judged. That is why the best pitchers focus on getting started, preparation and competing. Winning or losing is just the result of a game, it does not define you until you quit or quit working to get better. It also why the Pitcher’s Mindset is just as important as their physical ability.

      Thanks for your insight

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